Inner Whizdom

I heard myself complaining about someone who never did what I wanted because it was all about her. Then I realized I didn’t know– What do I want? Sometimes it’s easier to bitch and moan about others than to decide clearly and go after it.

There is no point in living with fear, shame, or emotional pain. Let it go. Accept, forgive, don’t hold on. It is not useful.

This is for my NLP teacher from a long time back.

I don’t believe there’s a lot of value in anticipating that change is going to be hard. A change of perspective can often come in a flash and suddenly everything’s different.

Whenever someone would make pronouncements about how difficult a struggle something was going to be she would say, “unless, of course, it isn’t.”

Allow the possibility that it will be easy.

1) Start with the basic assumption that everyone deserves to get what she wants. Therefore there is a solution out there that allows this.

2) Ask for what you want– put it out. Determine what is essential about it.

3) Listen and be creative about ways for everyone to win.

Last night I learned about Marshall Rosenberg’s Non-Violent Communication model from Lynne Hutchinson of Field of Possibility. One of the things I like about it is how it explains in easy to grasp steps how to come from non-defensiveness.

This is for Karen who first turned me on to the notion.

With your present day resources and wisdom you can love the young and foolish you, or forgive the misguided parents or people who shaped you in the distant past. It all led to who you are now, and you are magnificent. Heal the past by loving and forgiving now.

I admire Oprah for using her celebrity to promote Eckhart Tolle’s A New Earth. She uses fame and wealth to do big vital things. No wonder she’s successful.